We know you may have unique questions and may not know where to start your search for answers. Well, why don’t you try starting with SAFER+SANER with our resident experts? Whether you need safety tips on specific leathersex practices, information on leather protocol, or help figuring out the appropriate leather gear for a special leather occasions…just email your questions to

This Month’s expert:
Terrell Brown

This Month’s question: "I have been curious about BDSM, but all the resources I have found seem very advanced and tailored to specific activities. Are there any books and/or websites you would recommend for a beginner?"

Dear Curious,
The biggest challenge you will have is making that first leap into the lifestyle. With no points of reference and no initial vocabulary it is very difficult to find what you want. I have included some books and some websites that you should enjoy as they both inform and entertain. These are some of the books that my mentor had me read when I was new.

  • SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

  • Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe Fun S/M Lovemaking by Race Bannon and Guy Baldwin

  • Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player by Joseph W. Bean

  • Leathersex Q&A: Questions about Leathersex and the Leatherlifestyle Answered

  • Ties that Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style, Issues, Commentaries and Advice by Guy Baldwin, Joseph Bean (Ed.)

These websites provide an array of information from vocabulary to where to buy leather. Please let me know how things turn out after a while!


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